I’ve been expending a lot of emotional energy as of late because I’ve been moralizing various circumstances in my life: I’m being a bad son for not having planned a bigger celebration for my mother’s 60th birthday. I should be sticking to a more consistent fitness routine to take care of my body. I should be getting more sleep. I make work deadlines into crises by working up until the eleventh hour on them. … There’s a host of choices I feel I’ve made that were either “right” or “wrong.”
When I stop to think about it, there’s really no “right” or “wrong” in the world. There’s simply “what is” and “what is not.” Everything else is just subjective value we place on something, a value that can change depending on the social milieu.
When I can just deal with “what is” and “what is not,” rather than “right” and “wrong,” I free myself up to deal with what is in front of me, rather than arguing with myself.