On the commute into work this morning, I had a much-needed conversation with Andy. It gave us the opportunity to get present to the ways in which our growing friendship has been a contribution to each other’s lives. After that conversation, I got present to a paradox.
I think one of the functions of relationships is they serve as safe spaces to just be. Moreover, they are arguably spaces that we set up to protect us from the harsh cruelties of human existence.
Yet, relationships are also the places where we make ourselves the most vulnerable. They are the places where it is okay to be with our own messiness and insecurities. They are the spaces where we remove the veneer that we maintain to look good to the outside world, and we become real with ourselves. They are the spaces where we risk ourselves in the name of true intimacy.
How do we balance these two aspects of relationships? How do preserve the parts of relationships that keep us safe while expanding the Freedom that comes from taking that leap of faith in seeking our better selves with others?